Okay, okay so a friend of mine told me about something happening in her relationship with her newish man, and it got me thinking.  This is something that happens a lot with the ladies actually and I find it very interesting.  So I thought I should write about it because I can.  This post is merely about MY observations more than anything. I’m just curious about how these things work, generally for other people as not all relationships are the same obviously. Actually it’s also a question…I’ve noticed something about us women when it comes to relationships, i.e. new relationships and newish ones as well.  We sure do make a huge fuss about meeting the in laws or not meeting them.  I’m not saying all women, please understand that, I’m just gonna mention some of the things I’ve noticed.   

Look if you’re in a long term relationship with someone, eventually you will have to meet the family.  But when does that eventuality become the right time? I’m curious about the time frame; do people consciously set a time frame for when it is acceptable to take home ones’ new mate to meet the folks?

Is there ever a “right” time for this to happen? Can it happen just about whenever?  And when it does finally happen what are the rules? Are there rules or do we have to have rules? And do you discuss these rules?

For some reason some girls seem to think that meeting the family is an affirmation of love by their partners. They think “yes!! This is it! Trap and Pass”….So as soon as they get introduced to one family member, they are ON that family member like the plague!! It’s worse now with social media; once a girl is introduced to family she will add them on Facebook, follow them on twitter and boy will she make herself visible!! I’m not saying there is anything wrong with a little socializing lol but can we be subtle ladies…

No look, some girls start planning the wedding as soon as they meet a new guy :’). Why? Can we not just date? Can we not take it a step at time and see where things and time will lead us? I think sometimes we expect too much too soon from our men. We are not always at the same stages in our lives and so we need to consider that about our partners at all times…Think: just because you’re ready to tie the knot, it doesn’t mean everyone you meet is. When it’s time it will happen, or not. But let’s just be mindful of things that put unnecessary pressure on other people’s lives. 

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