What does that even mean? I love you? Why do some people crave those words so much, while other cringe at the thought of them? The words that carry sooo much weight! LoL!!
In different situations, it means a lot of different things… It has often been said “I love you, (but not in that way)” or “I love you, (because the sex was that good)” or “I love you, (because I’m just a liar”) it has been said “I love you, (because I think you’re what I think I need)”. Those three words in my opinion are not to be thrown around lightly just because it seems like the right or the convenient thing to say at the time…think about the repercussions. I’m not talking about that sisterly or brotherly love. I mean in romantic situations, flings and sexual encounters that have lingered on way longer than their sell-by date.
How many of you have said those 3 little big words just so you could get laid and later regretted it with every inch of your body and mind, because the chick is now stuck on those words and just wants to be loved? You said it!!! You brought it onto yourself. On that same note however, I can’t imagine how many people would get slapped if they were to be upfront enough to just say “hey, wanna shag?” It is a sticky little issue I must say, and we must tread lightly and not think only with the lower parts of our bodies.
Why do we do it? And we have become so good at it. There is almost no value in hearing those words anymore…its value is not completely lost, but you almost have to take hearing those words with a pinch of salt. I’m not saying I don’t believe in love or that everything is about love, but a lot does revolve around it. We have to keep in mind that we do not have the same mindset(s), so just because you think in a certain way, it doesn’t mean I will think in that way too. So, I say there is no talk that beats strait talk. Put your cards on the table, tell him/her what you’re about; the person will either stick around to take it or will just leave!
I find it is not always necessary to say those words. But we get so caught up in trying to have relationships that we forget what we’re really about and we end up in “situationships” (as per M.L.). We don’t always have to label the relations we have with people (that’s just me). So, if we are not in love…can we have a mutual understanding and just be clear about what is going on and not sell each other dreams we will not be able to make a reality.
Basically it all boils down to being open minded, not having too many expectations and remembering “we hear what you’re saying, but it’s what you do that counts”.