Here’s a situation I’d like to tackle just a bit. My interest in this topic was sparked after an interesting conversation I had with my cousin.  He is currently faced with this rather interesting predicament.  At some point in life we come across the “right” person, but at unfortunately a very wrong time. Whether that timing is wrong in their lives or yours, it makes no difference. I bet at some point in life you have come across that one “potential” that you certainly knew could be your perfect match. But due to the different chapters you both were at in life at that time, you could not be together.  No matter how fitting a match you are with each other, at that time it is just not possible to be together.

What an annoyance it is to have right at the tip of your fingers, the possibility of the most beautiful thing with a soul you know you are so perfectly in-sync with, but no you cannot have it. At times we love a person who is not ready to be loved at all, no matter what you do right, your object of affection will just not be had. There are other times where you meet that possible perfect companion but at that time you yourself are the one tied up in a relationship, not in an unhappy one, so you have no reason really to cut ties with your current lover. So you stay with the one you have and know. How hard it must be to simply live on while knowing you let someone who could have been “the one” get away.

But that is what life is! We learn to make do with what we have, and sometimes yes we settle. Does this make us fair or considerate people? Does playing it “safe” make us good people or just cowards? Should we really just accept and let them be known as the ones that got away?

This depends on so many things…

If you have ever been faced with that situation, how did you deal with it? Did you remove the obstacle that stood in the way of your possible happiness and grabbed this new possible happiness with both hands? Is it okay to accept that you cannot have them and just move on with another person?

Oh man how tricky life sometimes is. Yes sometimes you lose some and sometimes you just lose more!

Here’s to the one that got away 🙂

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